Quit Overcommitment to Fulfill Your Dreams

Are you too busy to read this blog?

Should you be completing some work you committed to? And are you procrastinating (and reading online blogs) because the job isn’t as much fun or satisfying as you expected?

If you are overcommitted you allow other people to take charge of your schedule.

Most people are overcommitted and allow insufficient time for tasks and activities, as well as insufficient time in between activities You may be living in constant crisis mode. And usually that is to the expense of yourself, like missing out on exercise, spending time with family and friends, or taking up a hobby.

Are you truly aware there are only 24 hours in any given day?

If you committed to a task that helps fulfill someone else’s dream, but get nothing out of it for yourself, then why did you say ‘Yes’? What happens with your plans for the future? Is someone else working on that for you? I am afraid not.

If you want to feel better about how you spend your days,  you have to stop running around in circles and check in with yourself.

People with poor time management often also have problems with stuff.

If time management is not your strength, you probably feel you are too busy to deal with clutter. You are constantly putting out fires; dealing with the next emergency that seems to come out of nowhere.

According to Cindy Glovinsky, author of the book Making Peace with the Things in Your Life, thinking about WHAT you commit to is important; thinking about HOW YOU DECIDE to commit is even more important.

Here is a helpful exercise to analyze how you come to the decision to  commit to obligations:

For a week, write down of all commitments you made or did not make. Take these questions into account:

    1. Who asked you to commit? And how did that person make you feel?
    2. How did you feel when you said ‘Yes’, and how did you feel about this commitment the next day?
    3. Did you check your calendar before agreeing to a time or obligation?
    4. Did you realize that now you said ‘Yes’ to this, you said ‘No’ to something else (remember: there are only 24 hours in a day)
    5. How long did you think the job would take and how long did it  actually take?
    6. Did you schedule time for travel, a  toilet break, or to relax in between activities?
    7. Does the commitment bring you closer to your goals, and not only to those of others?
    8. Is this commitment in line with your values?
    9. What would have happened if you’d chosen not to commit?

Next, study your notes. Do you see a pattern? Is your overcommitment the result of poor limit-setting (this is very common).

Saying ‘No’ is the ultimate form of self-care.

Now you have a better picture of how you respond to requests for your time and energy, you can start controlling what you really want to commit to.